The Intimidator

Do you know the best words that a women in business can hear? Man, you're a bitch! Or, do you know how badly you intimidate people? The answer to both statements/questions is yes. When it comes to business, I do actually know how much of a bad ass I am. If I could transfer that to my personal life, I would honestly be unstoppable. I have worked hard at absolutely everything I have ever done my entire life. On top of that, I've learned, that as a woman, you have to create a presence about you, or you get lost in the shuffle. You have to almost command attention. I've worked with nothing but men my entire adult career life and have had to swim with the big dogs and come out on top. Half of that career was spent managing guys which makes it tougher. So, when my father sits me down to explain the intricacies of a meeting we're going into, and then proceeds to tell me that one of the people we're meeting with, who just happens to be a very good friend of his, tells him how intimidating I can be, the only thing I can do is smile. I've met this guy one time, over lunch, that was with my dad, who was cracking jokes the whole time. And the one thing this guy took from that lunch is that I'm intimidating! Well hell yeah I am, because you might have been an easy target. Or, have you met my dad? You have to put up or get out of the way when dealing with that monster. He's a tough audience. Although my skin might be as tough as nails, once you crack the exterior, the inside is a soft mushy mess. But again, not when it comes to business. You should see and hear the knuckle heads I've dealt with in my day. Not to down play any other persons profession, but the clowns that work in the radio business truly take the cake. Between the egos, and the "personalities", and the looks, I'm telling you there is nothing like it. When they see me walk in, the first thing they usually think is "well, this is going to be easy. I totally have a chance with this chick". And then I open my mouth. I sit there and let them talk, and stroke their egos and then I bring them down a notch. I have probably heard every excuses known to man and have a radio fan club as big as my radio hater club. But, the funny thing is, the reason these people hate me is not because I was mean to them. Nope, it was because I wouldn't stand for their bull shit and totally called them out on it. But take the same situation and give it to a guy who just tells them in a totally different way the same exact news and they have a buddy for life. I don't care, you can have them. I have my friends, and they are amazing, as I've mentioned. Does this make me a bitch, maybe, however, the second you see through it and call me on it, you probably have a friend for life. I LOVE when people call me out on my own shit. ESPECIALLY strangers. Well not the guy from the other night at the bar who called me 'cynical as shit', but normally I'm totally down. That guy was a douche lord who couldn't appreciate a good schtick. I mean, for Christ sake, these children were dressed in slut gear. My friends and I totally thought they were the bar hookers out early, but when we found out they were the "talent" for the evening, we had to stay. Well, until they started destroying Led Zeppelin, then we had to leave out of principle. But, so yeah, I'm sarcastic, and I'm honest, and that's just me. People love me for who I am, and if I could change it, I would. That being said, I really don't feel like I'm a mean person. I don't ever want to come across as the bully. Sure, I do make comments about people when I don't know them and should probably think about it before I say it, and unfortunately I am the person that says what everyone at the table is thinking, but again, all part of my charm. At least that's what I'm going with. Could it be the reason I'm still single? Maybe, but I don't believe it. What I believe is that there is a person out there who can totally handle me. Who can and will call me out when I'm wrong. And who can totally put me in my place. Maybe that's why Craig has been around so long. I've never met anyone who has done all of these things to me like he does. It's true I need to be tamed every now and then and for the most part I feel like I have toned it down A LOT. But again, when it comes to business, I. AM. THE. SHIT! This is why I know my day care will be successful. This is why I know I will find investors who will believe in the product as much as I do. This is why I believe that when I was in funemployment for six months, I had no doubt in my mind that the right thing was going to come along. And it did! I've worked far too hard for far too long for it to go any other way. So go ahead and call me intimidating. Say I'm totally a bitch. I'll agree with you 100% and welcome these challanges.